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The Heart Space

I have embarked on a magical journey.

The journey of connecting with Spirit in a place I like to call the Heart Space.  The most difficult thing about the journey appears to be entering the Heart Space, but once  located this space is the magical sweet spot of life.

What is the Heart Space?

For me, this Heart Space is that inner place of quiet surrender where love and creative inspiration emanate from. The place of quiet where the outside world is still and all that exists is me and my creator.

Allowing myself to even be willing to look for this Heart Space was a big step for me. For the longest time I was at battle with myself. I felt (or my ego did) that if I surrendered to this magical place that I would lose control of my life and that I would have to face into things that my Ego and head did not want to do.

Case in point, For the longest time I believed with the very core of my being that surrendering to spirit would mean I would have to give up the one relationship that was most important to me. I believed that because all of the religious structure I had contact with constantly told me that the relationship was wrong. The news media told me that the relationship was wrong. My neighbors and even some I viewed as friends all shared the common belief that the relationship was wrong.  The message was so overwhelming that at some point I decided to believe it was true.

In hindsight, I find it amusing that by being stuck in my ego I was judging what I held most dear as wrong. I was living from a place of betraying myself with every moment I spent within that relationship, just because I believed what I being told by the world.  I was so stuck in my pattern of control that allowing myself to think that Spirit was really working for me, not against me, was not possible.  Surrender was not possible.

Once I decided to take the leap and connect to my Heart Space anyway I learned that Spirit really wants everything I want for myself and more.  In my Heart Space I learned what my relationship could be, and I have learned in baby-step fashion how to move forward in creating the relationship I truly want.  My  relationship has changed completely, and for the better.  It looks different on the outside, and it feels different on the inside.

What Spirit has had me learn through this relationship has been very important in my learning of how to connect to my Heart Space.

Connecting to the Heart Space

 The heart space is easy to find. 

The Heart Space is that moment between the breath, that moment between inhale and exhale.  That is the connecting point to this magical place.  The beauty of that is we all breathe.  The simplicity of this is, whether we recognize it or not, every person who is breathing is already connected to their Heart Space. It is in the moment of the breath that we come to discover Spirit and Spirit’s divine plan for our lives.

 The Heart Space requires practice.

Just like when we are training for a sporting event, training ourselves to access, recognize, and take action from the Heart Space takes practice. Starting in an easy way is key.  Set aside 5 minutes in the morning and evening for Heart Space practice.  During the 5 minutes focus on the magical moment between the inhale and the exhale.  Allow whatever wants to happen at that moment to occur. There may be magical ideas, there may be burst of creativity, perhaps you will be given directions of things to do or act on, but mostly you will be given a state of peace.

Remember also that how or where  your practice occurs does not matter.  It does not have to look any particular way.  Some prefer a traditional meditation setting, others will do better to practice connecting to their Heart Space while they are walking or moving.  Whatever feels right to you is usually right for you.

To really enter the Heart Space we need to suspend our beliefs. 

Spirit really will guide us and direct  us to the place of our greatest good and  biggest learning.  When we are willing to look past what we believe to be true and lay aside our judgment, we open ourselves to our greatest learning.  This is all about surrender. All about letting go. All about letting go of something good to find something great!

For me, letting go of my special relationship as it existed has allowed me to go forward creating a new relationship with the same person. My beliefs about what it  looked like and what it could look like have been laid aside. The opening provided for by Spirit allows for The Heart Space to be entered and embraced. From the Heart Space the relationship can blossom and grow on its own with no expectation of what the end will look like.

Connecting to my Heart Space has allowed me to move the quality of my relationship to a different and better  place. As I stay connected I am finding that my whole life is shifting in subtle ways for the better. As I stay connected I am finding that the world really is a magical place once more, and as I surrender I find both peace and freedom.

Finding your Heart Space is finding the beginning of spiritual wellness. Don’t take my word for it though, find the magic for yourself.

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The Art of Being Nervy

Or “Who do you think you are and what gives you the right?”

As I continue my contemplation of all my Wild Joys of Living I often find myself entering into a construction zone.  You know the kind with all the orange cones and hard hats, just like the roads here in Utah. My latest construction zone finds me knee deep in the murky water of my relationship with myself.

I have the constant propensity to place everyone else and their needs first in my world. In doing that several things have occurred. First, I have lost myself because I am constantly dishonoring me. Second, I have become the hero, victim, or villain in the famous drama dance of life.  Both of these options suck!

In losing myself I have have given away my place of personal power. I have given away my God given right to go out and live my passions or create my dreams. I have done that by filling my world with so much of everyone else’s Stuff.  I have done that by being the hero, the doctor that fixes it, the mom that gets it all done and makes it all better. I have done this by choosing to be the bad guy, holding you accountable for your choices (even while I have not been accountable to me for mine). I have done that by making “their world” feel better for them.

So, Starting today I get to practice what I teach. I get to practice the Art of being Nervy, because It takes a lot of nerve in this world to put yourself first!

So what is being nervy?

First it is following the airline rules…put you oxygen mask on first and then assist those around you.  For me that means making a specified portion of my day that is for me.  The part where I get to fill myself up so that I can go forth and truly serve others from a balanced and grounded place. The part where I can be gentle with myself by relaxing, reading, bubble bathing, massaging, walking and moving, dancing, meditating, journaling….the possibilities are endless. It means speaking and living what is true for me. It means learning to make choices from the place of honoring both myself and the self of others, not the comfortable choice.

Secondly, It is damn nervy to go out and change how you show up for others, even if it is in everyone’s best interest.  It is damn nervy to say “you made the mess, you clean it up.”  “An emergency on your part does not constitute an emergency on mine.” “I am sorry, that sucks, but only you can change it.” Being willing to change how I show up though is the only way I can get back to the business of living my passions and my dreams, and  It also puts me in the position to be fully present with (you) the people in my life so that I can  say to them (you) from my heart “How may I assist you?” and be ready and willing to tell that other person if I can offer that level or form of support (is it a yes or is it a no for me).

So who am I and what gives me the right? I am an individual with a purpose and mission in this life. I have passions and dreams that are just as important as yours. I am here to love you and live my compassionate nature by assisting you, but I am not here to do it for you.

We each have the right and the responsibility to take on our own learning full force. My role as a healer says that I am here to offer you assistance, guidance, education, ect… in your process of healing. My role as a healer in no way states that I have to give my entire life trying to fix it for you. My role as a mother says I am here to show up for you and support you in your quest for your own passions and dreams, but it does not mean that your dreams are mine. My role as a partner say “I will love and support you in your learning and your path, but it does not mean that your path is mine” even though we are often on the same path.

So, please live what is true for you and I will live what is true for me. I promise to be honest with myself and with you. I promise to be in service to you as long as that service beings me joy instead of expectation or obligation. I promise to be open to feeling the joys and the ouches of life openly. Finally, I promise to always live the Namaste’ Principle by honoring the light in myself and acknowledging your light by honoring you too.

So am I Nervy…you bet! Because I am worth it and it is the best way I know to create whole-body healing.