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Feeling the Fear

What a day it has been…

Never in my life have I experienced so many ups and downs in one day.  The roller coaster of emotion is rolling like waves to the point of overwhelming.  it is amazing to me the diversity of the joy, laughter, pain, fear, and anger that has rolled through my day.  Just as perplexing is the amount of physical change in my body that occurs with each emotion.

At this moment I have a headache and my stomach is very queezy.  When I look past the physical symptoms, I am able to see that my world is changing very quickly in unexpected ways which is bringing fear into my world. Fear for me triggers that queezy feeling, and trying to control the fear brings on the headache as I clench my jaw and tighten all the muscles in my body.

My inner knowing tells me that I need to find physical ways to express my fear.

Looking to processes like walking meditation, gentle stretching, or vibrating my body with laughter will create that physical release of the fear.  The beauty of these types of release is that they act as a conduit to the free and natural flow of emotion, allowing the movement rather than the blockage of the energy in my body.

Free moving and flowing emotions are one of the best ways to proactively prevent disease from taking hold.

Another suggestion for acknowledging and releasing fear is the use of Ho’o pono pono, as describes by Joe Vitale in his book entitled Zerolimits.  This is a system that allows us to clear  emotions and memories, bring us back to spirit.  Saying the simple phrase of I love you. I am sorry. please forgive me.  Thank you.  is a powerful way to release in love and transmute what we are feeling in gratitude for it showing up in our awareness. I have even focused this ho’o pono pono practice to the area of my body that is speaking loudly and the results have been amazing.

How do you handle your emotions?  Do you bottle them up and attack yourself from the inside, or do you acknowledge them and let them flow?  Do your emotions flow in a gentle and healthy manner, or do they back up and then explode through violently?

Do you pay attention to the symptoms in your body letting you know about what you need to be addressing emotionally? I do!  Sometimes I like what my body is telling me. Other times I don’t. But my body will always give me the gentle (sometimes not so gentle) nudges that will allow me to recognize and move through what is before me. For that I am truly grateful, and humbled by the magnificence of who I am.

As a side note my headache and queezy stomach have now passed….Journaling is also a great way to process emotions, but that is another topic for another day. 🙂

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The Art of Being Nervy

Or “Who do you think you are and what gives you the right?”

As I continue my contemplation of all my Wild Joys of Living I often find myself entering into a construction zone.  You know the kind with all the orange cones and hard hats, just like the roads here in Utah. My latest construction zone finds me knee deep in the murky water of my relationship with myself.

I have the constant propensity to place everyone else and their needs first in my world. In doing that several things have occurred. First, I have lost myself because I am constantly dishonoring me. Second, I have become the hero, victim, or villain in the famous drama dance of life.  Both of these options suck!

In losing myself I have have given away my place of personal power. I have given away my God given right to go out and live my passions or create my dreams. I have done that by filling my world with so much of everyone else’s Stuff.  I have done that by being the hero, the doctor that fixes it, the mom that gets it all done and makes it all better. I have done this by choosing to be the bad guy, holding you accountable for your choices (even while I have not been accountable to me for mine). I have done that by making “their world” feel better for them.

So, Starting today I get to practice what I teach. I get to practice the Art of being Nervy, because It takes a lot of nerve in this world to put yourself first!

So what is being nervy?

First it is following the airline rules…put you oxygen mask on first and then assist those around you.  For me that means making a specified portion of my day that is for me.  The part where I get to fill myself up so that I can go forth and truly serve others from a balanced and grounded place. The part where I can be gentle with myself by relaxing, reading, bubble bathing, massaging, walking and moving, dancing, meditating, journaling….the possibilities are endless. It means speaking and living what is true for me. It means learning to make choices from the place of honoring both myself and the self of others, not the comfortable choice.

Secondly, It is damn nervy to go out and change how you show up for others, even if it is in everyone’s best interest.  It is damn nervy to say “you made the mess, you clean it up.”  “An emergency on your part does not constitute an emergency on mine.” “I am sorry, that sucks, but only you can change it.” Being willing to change how I show up though is the only way I can get back to the business of living my passions and my dreams, and  It also puts me in the position to be fully present with (you) the people in my life so that I can  say to them (you) from my heart “How may I assist you?” and be ready and willing to tell that other person if I can offer that level or form of support (is it a yes or is it a no for me).

So who am I and what gives me the right? I am an individual with a purpose and mission in this life. I have passions and dreams that are just as important as yours. I am here to love you and live my compassionate nature by assisting you, but I am not here to do it for you.

We each have the right and the responsibility to take on our own learning full force. My role as a healer says that I am here to offer you assistance, guidance, education, ect… in your process of healing. My role as a healer in no way states that I have to give my entire life trying to fix it for you. My role as a mother says I am here to show up for you and support you in your quest for your own passions and dreams, but it does not mean that your dreams are mine. My role as a partner say “I will love and support you in your learning and your path, but it does not mean that your path is mine” even though we are often on the same path.

So, please live what is true for you and I will live what is true for me. I promise to be honest with myself and with you. I promise to be in service to you as long as that service beings me joy instead of expectation or obligation. I promise to be open to feeling the joys and the ouches of life openly. Finally, I promise to always live the Namaste’ Principle by honoring the light in myself and acknowledging your light by honoring you too.

So am I Nervy…you bet! Because I am worth it and it is the best way I know to create whole-body healing.